As I stated in my previous entry, I knew I’d breastfeed because my mother breastfed me. But now that I’m 4 months into this journey, I’ve quickly realized the decision isn’t as easy for every mom. So here are a few thoughts I’ve had recently:
- Choosing between breast and formula is like choosing between a balanced diet and vitamins. We all know the best way to eat is to have such a healthy, balanced diet you get all your nutrients from your food. But most of us are slackers (well at least I know I am) and don’t come close to getting 100% of anything healthy from our food. That’s where the vitamins come in. Breast is best, but it’s not easy. That’s where the formula comes in.
- I think I may explode if I hear or read about one more person suggesting we take our natural, normal behavior of breastfeeding into a public bathroom. These are the same bathroom that most people are too disgusted by to sit on the commode, yet they want us to FEED OUR BABIES in them?!?!?! WTF!!!!!!!!
- Let’s admit the real reason men don’t want to see breastfeeding in public – they know they’ll have problems seeing our breasts as the sex objects they used to know and love. Sorry guys, but they do have a biological purpose, and it’s not my fault you can’t get past that.
- I don’t think it’s too much to ask for a little modesty. Uhh ohh, did I just lose some of you readers? If my child is hungry, make no mistake about it – I’ll feed him. However, how I feed him depends on my location. If I’m at home or somewhere I feel uber comfortable, I’ll whip out a boob. If I’m in public, I’ll still whip the boob out, but I’ll also throw a blanket over my shoulder (or use the cover, I mean apron, I mean cover a friend gave me – it just depends on which matches my outfit 🙂 ).
There’s been lots of chatter on Twitter about “boobytraps.” Cute term, right? Click the cute pink button on the left side of the screen to learn more about them. Well, I think there are some boobytraps that people don’t think about:
- Overzealous LCs (lactation consultants) – when my first LC entered my room a few hours after my c-section only to learn Butterball was in the nursery being circumcised, she freaked out. She then freaked me out by telling me I’d made a horrible decision because now that he was getting Tylenol, he’d probably sleep even more which would make our initial attempts at breastfeeding even harder. I was alarmed and asked what that really meant. She then began to tell me all the things I might have to do since he probably wouldn’t latch. I then tuned her out because I was OVERWHELMED! Had I not known my entire 31 years of life that I was going to breastfeed, I would have thrown in the towel at that moment and said “screw it, just give him a bottle.”
- The crunchy/granola image often associated with breastfeeding. I tweeted about this before, and it’s worth repeating – I think women need to identify with their helpers/support in order to succeed in any activity. If you don’t know anyone “like you” who does a particular activity, it’s hard to stay the course. So many of the lactivists I’ve encountered are also extremely pro cloth diaper, green, and natural parents. (Not that any of those things are bad.) But if you’re not like them, you can easily begin to think it’s be easier/better to just do like the people who are like you and formula feed.
- EDITED TO ADD – all I’m saying is that if you want to convince a teenage girl to breastfeed, you might have more success with someone she can identify with – either someone like her or someone she’d want to be like. A green, granola, well-meaning mom might not fit the bill. Similarly, if you’re trying to convince a minority mom (another under breastfeeding group) to not use formula, you’d probably have more success with she doesn’t view as foreign.
So, I’m a proud breastfeeder. Are you? Why or why not – please share. If you totally disagree, please share (nicely).
Til next time……….